10 Things Elegant Ladies NEVER Say!

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An Elegant Lady would never say these things! So, to polish your proper etiquette for conversation, make sure to avoid doing these speaking mistakes. And find out what's your Elegance Style Personality by taking my new quiz here: stylepersonalityquiz.com (available through Facebook Messeenger).
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  • School Of Affluence
    School Of AffluenceΠριν 2 μήνες

    Thank you for watching! ❤️ If you liked this video, then make sure to watch this one for more content on elegance & etiquette: 10 Things Elegant Ladies NEVER Do grglo.info/project/pZfSaqrQpM6Mhmg/b-nteo

  • Melany Baxinela

    Melany Baxinela

    Πριν 16 ημέρες

    I will watch all of your vedios and i repeat it again and again and i share your channel to my friends as well...thank you Anna for teaching us to be illegant...

  • S S

    S S

    Πριν μήνα

    You think your eyelashes look elegant here?

  • S S

    S S

    Πριν μήνα

    You think your eye lashes look elegant here?

  • Lisa Bennett

    Lisa Bennett

    Πριν μήνα

    I was talking to a lady in her 70s who was born in England. She said she couldn't believe the land mines she had to walk around while walking to school. She mentioned how much money the USA gave Germany to rebuild. I said well why doesn't the Queen just sell one of her crowns. That could buy a lot of necessary clean up for her subjects. My English friend who was by then an American citizen was so offended. So I learned my lesson.

  • Angela Nix

    Angela Nix

    Πριν μήνα

    Can you please make a video on how keep an elegant conversation? Im in desparate need for this advice.

  • Kristina M.P.
    Kristina M.P.Πριν 2 ημέρες

    Hello Anna! I always appreciate when you give personal anecdotes!

  • Merra
    MerraΠριν 3 ημέρες

    I always love being elegant

  • The Prairie Life
    The Prairie LifeΠριν 3 ημέρες

    # 9 is indeed a sensitive subject. I'm an artist, and almost everyone wants free art... after grilling me about every aspect of my art work, formal vs informal art education, techniques, sales, etc, and giving me their strong opinions of each topic. It's exhausting.

  • Gregory M
    Gregory MΠριν 8 ημέρες

    It’s so nice to hear someone say that it’s inappropriate to ask people what they do. Thank you! I’ve always felt uncomfortable and offended when being asked this question. I never ask people what they do.

  • Alesha Summers
    Alesha SummersΠριν 8 ημέρες


  • Anh Mai
    Anh MaiΠριν 9 ημέρες

    Yeah! I agree with you but some points i disagree with😶😶, i'll keep it to myself becuz i'm an elegant lady🙃

  • Shanna777
    Shanna777Πριν 10 ημέρες

    Oh wow in so guilty. I just told my coworkers that I need to go to the washroom because to do no.2 😅😅😅😅 i need to watch your videos more.

  • 墨兰miss val
    墨兰miss valΠριν 12 ημέρες

    im a foreigner in China and its OK to ask all these.Its even OK to ask a guy if he owns a car a house. His salary etc.. Its even normal to fart in public. Im far away from elegance 😄😄😅

  • TART
    TARTΠριν 12 ημέρες

    When women ask me where I got (bought) something I'm wearing. Ugh. Though I think women describing a man's performance and anatomy is probably the worst.

  • Pinkpoodle
    PinkpoodleΠριν 13 ημέρες

    Anna, Can you suggest a response to people who ask what I do for a living, and if my jewelry is real? I find both comments extremely rude.

  • Charlotte Lmbt
    Charlotte LmbtΠριν 15 ημέρες

    Dont ask a couple when they plan on having children. If the couple already has a child dont ask them if that child was planned

  • Charlotte Lmbt
    Charlotte LmbtΠριν 15 ημέρες

    So basically have the personality of a rock and be as superficial and uptight as possible, gotcha.

  • money sun
    money sunΠριν 15 ημέρες

    1. "I was sleeping around in college"

  • irmalair1
    irmalair1Πριν 16 ημέρες

    I love the background sounds! - It felt like we were sitting together in an open terrace café :)))

  • Melany Baxinela
    Melany BaxinelaΠριν 16 ημέρες

    I love you Anna..i am always watching your vlog and im so inspired ....never stop vlogging...keep us always motivated....never mind negative comments...just focus on your goal...Godbless

  • Rachel McClain
    Rachel McClainΠριν 19 ημέρες

    Some girls in society are talking about liberation, how talking about sex is empowering, but I feel like there shpuld be no one in the bedroom but you and your partner. It may be warranted on a platform dedicated to that, but not table talk.

  • Ayat Abdelrahman
    Ayat AbdelrahmanΠριν 20 ημέρες

    Would you mind making a video about things to talk about with men that women are interested in considering both individuals are quiet on social media not face to face please Thank you

  • Fortunate Sambo
    Fortunate SamboΠριν 22 ημέρες

    Wait politics what I live and breath politics 😥

  • J Pdr
    J PdrΠριν 25 ημέρες

    im on a school of affluence marathon recently

  • Amelie Poulame
    Amelie PoulameΠριν 25 ημέρες

    00:48 way too funny!

  • fitrialistiqomah
    fitrialistiqomahΠριν 27 ημέρες

    Me as political major student 😳😳

  • abhya kapoor
    abhya kapoorΠριν 28 ημέρες

    Hi Anna a quick question I have a dark sense of humour so does that mean I’m not elegant ? Secondly, I’m at university so if I ask people what course they do as a conversation starter isn’t that technically what they do ? So how should I solve that ?

  • Chocolate Lushie
    Chocolate LushieΠριν μήνα

    Anna goes "elegant ladies", Me: She called me a lady! I'm an elegant lady 😍🤩

  • aditi kedari
    aditi kedariΠριν μήνα

    I whole heartedly agree with all of these, except speaking on politics and important matters. I think it’s essential for young ladies to have a strong voice and stance for what they believe in, so long as their belief does not hurt someone (yes I’m talking about things like racism). Stay classy ladies!

    NAISIMPΠριν μήνα

    if something sensitive or graphic is brought up by someone and you want to avoid them, how do you avoid them smoothly?

  • alia Perez
    alia PerezΠριν μήνα

    I have called a Czech a communist right to their face. I feel badly.

  • Garance
    GaranceΠριν μήνα

    Money is a private business. I agree. Don't go live in California, where everyone ask you where you bought your outfit and how much it cost, and how much did you spend remodeling your kitchen. Women talking sex: Hello Jane Fonda, you should go to the school of affluence! Another one taboo: "Do you have children?" is a very wrong question. Some parents have lost a child , or children, sometimes recently, and they do not know what to answer.

  • Lea sofie 1
    Lea sofie 1Πριν μήνα

    Also about opinions.: Never say something bad about another person. like the country-situation someone might know and like this person..

  • Christine Maure
    Christine MaureΠριν μήνα

    Does it apply to friends ?

  • widya yusen
    widya yusenΠριν μήνα

    Hi Anna I have been watching your vedio for over 1 year , I saw your vedio very educative for me and suit with my personality anyway I just want tell you thank you, and finally after 1 year I decided to subscribe your channel ☺️☺️ I’m from Indonesia 🇮🇩

  • chiyo parasta
    chiyo parastaΠριν μήνα

    Yes. I always feel irritated everytime my colleagues saying dirty jokes or joking about sex. It's really a turn off.

  • Ursula Müller
    Ursula MüllerΠριν μήνα

    Could you please make a video about exactly the questions you mentioned but addressed to the elegant lady, and suggest the answers to give, in that cases, to the men who ask that kind of questions?

  • Stap02
    Stap02Πριν μήνα

    I have that friend who always mentions Brand name on her Instagram stories (I just talked on my Apple 12 pro Max to my boss while driving my BMW, etc) . I am not joking she really posts like this. Funniest of all, she mentions how she hardly gets time with her husband, but whenever she gets, she meets him only in hotels like 4 seasons (I mean why, don't you have home?) And she sits with her laptop jotting her emotions. Funny thing is, she is an 'etiquette and manners guru' in her society.

  • fatma gazbar
    fatma gazbarΠριν μήνα

    Don't talk about taboos? no politics ? no cancer ...well even if I'm a doctor? well we are not dolls we're human beings and have opinions about everything...

  • Fireflifli Hi
    Fireflifli HiΠριν μήνα

    I have gf who blabbliudly about sex and money in nice rest or public and think it’s attractive or keepin it real. Sigh. I silently cringe

  • Fireflifli Hi
    Fireflifli HiΠριν μήνα

    Agreed! What do you do is the second sentence people ask so often at social geterongs as if they think it is a conversation opener but it is always. For a man to ask I think you want to know about me and my interests or how much money I make? I mean I get it, it the norm which is first and foremost so unoriginal to ask but also it is rude. Knowing what a person does may give insight into who they are but does it!?

  • A S.
    A S.Πριν μήνα

    Thought you were shannon lester for a sev

  • Jai Eesse
    Jai EesseΠριν μήνα

    In today’s world it can seem as if there’s nothing left to talk about because so many people are too easily offended. Be the better person, be patient, relax, rise above offense people who think it’s makes them look good to offend others but also remember there are those who don’t realise they’re being offensive, handling this type of person with a helpful gentle explanation off why they’ve offended you, it may not always work but you will always be the more gracious person for having tried,,,,Advice given to me by the most gracious I’ve ever met

  • Oleksandra Khr.
    Oleksandra Khr.Πριν μήνα

    I dont understand what is bad to talk about politics or diseases?🤔🤔🤷‍♀️

  • Sofia De Angelis
    Sofia De AngelisΠριν μήνα

    “ You don’t have to voice everything you think.”

  • That Ex Californian
    That Ex CalifornianΠριν μήνα

    “Don’t ask ‘what you do?’” Tell this to my grandmother 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

  • Vina Z
    Vina ZΠριν μήνα

    I just found you and thank you for explaining and over all existing I really need your videos

  • assertyourself
    assertyourselfΠριν μήνα

    You haven’t mentioned another inappropriate question and that is asking people about their family, there’s many people that come from dysfunction and may not be proud of their relatives and when people ask you I want to know about your siblings it’s a very awkward conversation

  • Noah Bodhi
    Noah BodhiΠριν μήνα

    For some reason, people think that insulting America in front of Americans is classy and chic, and proves that you're superior. Thank you for stating that insulting another's country, homeland, or culture is NEVER classy. And typically people insulting another's culture know nothing about it anyway, and will be revealed as embarrassingly ignorant.

  • Dara Grieger
    Dara GriegerΠριν μήνα

    I'm a doctor and I really don't like to let people know I'm one in social settings because so many people try to ask me for medical advise!

  • Alessandra Alvarez Calderon
    Alessandra Alvarez CalderonΠριν μήνα

    you're basically saying women can't have opinions and I think that is antiqued and the opposite of what a lady should do. yes, be kind, never hurt anyone with your words, but, voicing you're opinions should not be considered "un-ladylike." Women should be involved in religion, politics, sex, soccer, etc.

  • Ms. Dentist
    Ms. DentistΠριν μήνα

    Then what should i talk about?

  • S
    SΠριν μήνα

    I think most of these things are situational. I am a lawyer to debating is something I do for a living, so if someone opens up a political debate, I'd typically get involved and voice my opinions. Granted, I don't have any crazy offensive opinions but I believe that there's a right place and time for everything like you said.

  • Crystal Williams
    Crystal WilliamsΠριν μήνα

    Now i need to speak about other subject ,am also not very outspoken omg this is going to take a lot

  • Crystal Williams
    Crystal WilliamsΠριν μήνα

    Love the view

  • LilsLilMoves
    LilsLilMovesΠριν μήνα

    This is a beautiful background behind Anna, and the sunshine light is very advantageous.

  • CE F
    CE FΠριν μήνα

    What is an elegant way to decline an intrusive question? I struggle with this. I know it’s intrusive and often times, it turns me off when people do this but I have no clue how to respond and sometimes I just answer evasively. Help me please❤️❤️❤️

  • feewaybilz
    feewaybilzΠριν μήνα

    There's a saying that a great Diplomat always had he said always think twice before saying nothing. I also want to add people discussing vulgar bodily functions like 10 year old children making jokes about potty humor Etc

  • Alicia Sims
    Alicia SimsΠριν μήνα

    I haven’t watched yet, but I do wonder if it is considered not elegant to give information on how you’re feeling healthwise whether you are sick? I hate sharing this information. And about saying the powder room?

  • Cheryl Stade
    Cheryl StadeΠριν μήνα

    I'm an artist who happily declines a social life to afford myself more working time but these suggestions seem to me just basic good manners. In speech at least it seems I'm an elegant lady.

  • Delight Ngwenya
    Delight NgwenyaΠριν μήνα

    I just want to thank you cause I'm learning a lot and I'm becoming proper

  • maryglory salala
    maryglory salalaΠριν μήνα

    I love this lady thank you

  • Eka Eka
    Eka EkaΠριν μήνα

    You are really nice person,intelligent and pretty😍🧡

  • Stacey Del Bucchia
    Stacey Del BucchiaΠριν μήνα


  • Jennifer
    JenniferΠριν μήνα

    I absolutely love politics and crazy conspiracy theories...yet I will NEVER mention them to a man...even if he talks about them I will smile and give mild comments and change subject. Now when I'm with my girlfriends....forget about it!!

  • Anshika Tiwari
    Anshika TiwariΠριν μήνα

    Trust me Anna, you are a life saver. ❤

  • Krizelda Maris Manacop-Santillana
    Krizelda Maris Manacop-SantillanaΠριν μήνα

    What will I say when some people ask how much is something that I expensively own, but I don't want to tell the price? I feel like it's a little rude and opportunistic.

  • MISScelaneouX - Samantha Testoni
    MISScelaneouX - Samantha TestoniΠριν μήνα

    I love your content and I think it is really helpful for women and men (why not) , however I have to disagree to some points. Since people know what they are discussing about and come from a place of respect and knowledge they should talk about everything , especially politics, social justice and taboos. Women were locked out from politics for so long and elegant women should definitely know where they stand and be part of social construction in an intelligent environment where they voice their opinion about politics, listening and showing their point with respect.

  • Komma Rohey
    Komma RoheyΠριν μήνα

    I love you Anna❤

  • Bianca Vandenbos
    Bianca VandenbosΠριν μήνα

    This should be common sense for everyone but unfortunately it’s not. Thank you got talking about this 🤗. I love your channel

  • Aurora9990
    Aurora9990Πριν μήνα

    Thank you for your the info. I personally have not done the top ten. How do I handle it when someone asks me if I work, what do I do with my time, etc... It makes me feel uncomfortable. I don't believe these were rude or nosey people. I think most are curious and want to get to know me. I am a private person. I want to be friendly but ... Have you considered doing a video on how to get to know people? What TO say what NOT to say? How to deal with intrusive people? I once had a person just aggressively interrogate me over lunch. I did not know how to handle it. I felt attacked, drained, violated.

  • Khushi V
    Khushi VΠριν μήνα

    This woman is changing my life 🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • 許梅花
    許梅花Πριν μήνα

    Dear Anna, your advice told to us to not talk about this or that or some kind investigation questions, but how if someone did it to us. specially man. what is our elegant reaction shout be ?

  • Darina Kalinova
    Darina KalinovaΠριν μήνα

    Sorry I have just said to some people that I have passed exam in university. My 2nd one..... is that bad 😁😊

  • Darina Kalinova
    Darina KalinovaΠριν μήνα

    Haha so good video. And so truthful. There was a good rule in past you never talk about money, politics, religion and mistresses.

  • Fatyyma Shahzad
    Fatyyma ShahzadΠριν μήνα

    Also what if someone asks us about our financial status, how do we respond?

  • Fatyyma Shahzad
    Fatyyma ShahzadΠριν μήνα

    "Elegant women don't talk about diseases" Me as a medical student: 👁👄👁

  • claudia munoz
    claudia munozΠριν μήνα

    Hi Anna, I love youuuuuu!!!!!

  • Nicole JohnsonqetymologicalIcrkdmszckweo
    Nicole JohnsonqetymologicalIcrkdmszckweoΠριν μήνα

    So elegant ladies don't talk about politics? Shocking. I always thought that if you were well spoken in the subject you could talk about it.

  • Makayla
    MakaylaΠριν μήνα

    Emotional intelligence

  • Olga Mihutoiu
    Olga MihutoiuΠριν μήνα

    Thank you for the information ❤️

  • Maria Inman
    Maria InmanΠριν μήνα

    I cannot find the link to take the test to see which kind of elegant lady I am.

  • School Of Affluence

    School Of Affluence

    Πριν μήνα

    Here’s the link: stylepersonalityquiz.com

  • Trang Tran
    Trang TranΠριν μήνα

    Anna, why are you so so so cute like this???? I really enjoyed watching your video... especially when you show being tired of people said "I know this person I know that person...uhmmm..." just so so so so Cute....Love you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🤣🤣🤣

  • QueenOfRed
    QueenOfRedΠριν μήνα

    In America it’s the first thing in a conversation is to ask what job people do or what college and Major they took. It makes me think they are judging how much respect to give.

  • Sanjivini Tandon
    Sanjivini TandonΠριν μήνα

    That La vie en rose in the background ❤️

  • Sahithi Prerana
    Sahithi PreranaΠριν μήνα

    Heyyy But I have unpopular opinions all the time

  • Sahithi Prerana

    Sahithi Prerana

    Πριν μήνα

    Except for that ! I do everything!

  • Christina
    ChristinaΠριν μήνα

    While I was looking for a job, I hated millions of questions like: Did you find a job yet? Can you easily find a job with your degree? Are you considering another jobs?. This was asked so many times, from my family, cousins, friends, neighbors, random people I met... I`m so allergic to this type of questions, like, why do you care so much about my job applications. People are so ignorant and annoying these days

  • genute vadeikyte
    genute vadeikyteΠριν μήνα

    Labas vakaras! Butu malonu kad pazvelgtum į mano kultūra! Suprantu jusu ego kitoks! Groži mokate tikrai iš laikyti! Na ačiu kad pasidalinote! 🤗❤️💃🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹👍

  • Ruth Ogero
    Ruth OgeroΠριν μήνα

    Thanks for sharing For example if a want to become a teacher what is wrong me asking the person things to do with teaching and properly that's the only opportunity i have

  • natyvas0912
    natyvas0912Πριν μήνα

    I would like to know what to answer to those kinds of intrusives questions...

  • TXO74
    TXO74Πριν μήνα

    How does an Elegant Lady respond to prying questions that cross our boundaries, like, 'what do you do', 'are you married', 'why haven't you had kids yet?', etc? I always struggle with intrusive questions as I try to polite but my responses to decline the questions seem to offend.

  • Nilka Gracia
    Nilka GraciaΠριν μήνα

    Hi can someone link me the style personality quiz please, I'm having a difficult time finding it. Thank you in advance.

  • Marium Ali
    Marium AliΠριν μήνα

    What is taboo about politics, cancer and diseases? What if a woman is doctor or politician?

  • ag ka
    ag kaΠριν μήνα

    As a lawyer I need to thank you for the thing you said as number 9. ❤️

  • goldenmoon
    goldenmoonΠριν μήνα

    why do people feel its ok to surpass all of these common curtesies when its in dating? especially online dating...?

  • da afshar
    da afsharΠριν μήνα

    I agree with Anna on not asking what you do ! It’s personal ! Anything money related

  • da afshar
    da afsharΠριν μήνα

    I can’t believe she has to teach these to adult women ! Aren’t there the type of stuff we learned as kids and teenagers 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • Black Cracka
    Black CrackaΠριν μήνα

    Elegant ladies don't get plastic surgery and look fake.

  • Sinéad Collins
    Sinéad CollinsΠριν μήνα

    Love your videos. I get from them that you're encouraging and giving tips for a person to express their self worth, how to build their self respect and to increase self awareness of how we're expressing ourselves and how that can impact on our social connections.

  • Dallia1602
    Dallia1602Πριν μήνα

    Hye.. I just find your channel and I am really happy about it. I wish I would've got these advices some time ago and so avoid doing some serious mistakes. Well, live and learn :) I'm folowing your stream now so I expect nothing but the best. Thank you and be well!

  • Angela Nix
    Angela NixΠριν μήνα

    I love your thoughts on the opinions. I often have people reply harshly to me on the internet and ive been working on not replying to these people or responding back as elegant as possible and then ignoring them. Ive also been really working on thinking before i speak because its very important to me,

  • Son
    SonΠριν μήνα


  • Vee Martian
    Vee MartianΠριν μήνα

    Relating to number 8 and 9, do not make comments that probably has been repeated again and again. It makes you seem shallow or even uneducated. Examples(and alternatives): -Oh you're asian? So you must be really like at maths? (What interests do you have?) -You're from Singapore? Which part of China is that? (Which region is that by the way?) -You're pansexual? Isn't that just bi? Are you attracted to frying pans? (Pardon me for asking but can you tell me the difference between pansexual and bisexual?) -Oh you're bi? Does that mean you're transphobic? Will you have a 3some with me and my partner? (Tbh just don't ask these. Bisexuals are not transphobic. And don't ask for sex unless you're in a setting where asking for it is acceptable) Just no. If you have genuine curiosities or are just unfamiliar, ask with RESPECT and KINDNESS. It will make you seem like someone who is conscientious of other people.

  • Dawn CURRY
    Dawn CURRYΠριν μήνα

    So many classy points! This is one of my most favorite videos ❤️