The Toxic Side To Elegance

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There's a reason why I refuse to promote traditional elegance. Watch this video to reconsider your take on elegance, because in reality it might be damaging you and not helping!
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  • Rebecca Cisco
    Rebecca CiscoΠριν 4 ημέρες

    When I think of elegance, I think of kindness, of wanting those around you to be comfortable, having good manners, grace and style. But the most important ingredient is kindness. I see a huge kindness in Anna. She really wants to help others. I have a feeling she has a quick wit and sense if humor as well. I just cant handle people who dont laugh. Anna has a gorgeous smile.

  • fortvna66
    fortvna66Πριν 7 ημέρες

    Anna not only are you a wonderful woman with lots of wisdom but your audience is incredibly knowledgeable. I truly enjoy reading the comments as I watch and listen to you.

  • Nishat Fatima
    Nishat FatimaΠριν 16 ημέρες

    Elegance with humanity is only going to make you more elegant

  • Fireflifli Hi
    Fireflifli HiΠριν μήνα

    Wonderfully said! 🎊

  • ANA M.B. H.
    ANA M.B. H.Πριν μήνα

    Another masterpiece 🙏 thanks

  • Cristina G.
    Cristina G.Πριν μήνα

    Perfectionist from enjoyment and not sufferment 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • Julia T
    Julia TΠριν μήνα

    love this

  • Rose Di Napoli
    Rose Di NapoliΠριν μήνα


  • secret garden
    secret gardenΠριν μήνα

    Bonsoir i did'nt understand a word what you talking about but i love your style fullll like from Algeria could you translaté in french because in Algeria we speak french bonne continuation

  • Pamela Johnson
    Pamela JohnsonΠριν 2 μήνες

    You are beautiful and the flowers. I love those

  • Andrea Altgayer
    Andrea AltgayerΠριν 2 μήνες

    This is why I absolutely ADORE Audrey Hepburn! She was beyond elegant, but she wasn't perfect and she embraced her quirks!She is the ultimate lady!

  • Andrea Altgayer
    Andrea AltgayerΠριν 2 μήνες

    You're so right on so many levels!

  • junk fung
    junk fungΠριν 2 μήνες

    Any advice if the perfectionist side is due to insecurities deep down? Maybe due to family background or personal experience?

  • Melinda Valéria
    Melinda ValériaΠριν 2 μήνες

    I just loved this. I love your gestures. You should make a video about that. It's just very pure feminism. How a lady should move. 😊

  • Kymm Hinterberger
    Kymm HinterbergerΠριν 2 μήνες

    Etiquette, Compassion, Respect

  • Banana Queen
    Banana QueenΠριν 2 μήνες

    So what is traditional elegance, it’s certainly not just perfectionism. Please clarify?

  • Lorena Cortez
    Lorena CortezΠριν 2 μήνες

    Is there gonna be summer school next year ?

  • K S
    K SΠριν 2 μήνες

    You're so elegant! 😍💕

  • Alina Munir
    Alina MunirΠριν 2 μήνες

    Are these earing elegant?

  • Worships Cats
    Worships CatsΠριν 2 μήνες

    Thank you so much for saying all of this. It is hard to watch people who are perfectionists & extremists, bc - actually - they have zero elegance. They are closed, dead, shut down, they don't flow. There's no grace. Femininity is all about grace. It's a masculine trait to be competitive & exclusive.

  • Ema W
    Ema WΠριν 2 μήνες

    Anna, I hope you are not creating a bunch of monsters. I am so glad you clarified that today.

  • Ashley Salazar
    Ashley SalazarΠριν 2 μήνες

    That top is stunning 🌼

  • Lola Beck
    Lola BeckΠριν 2 μήνες

    Im so glad you made this video! I was in such a conflict about being elegant and being myself. I wondered how to make them compatible and I always thought I have to deny my character to be classy and elegant. Thanks for the video! It really helped me💕

  • Barbara Tarot i Numerologia S
    Barbara Tarot i Numerologia SΠριν 2 μήνες

    That's why like You said balance is the key ❤️

  • Carolyn Cavanagh at home with Grace
    Carolyn Cavanagh at home with GraceΠριν 2 μήνες

    I would love to see your entire outfit in each video!

  • Abdul S.H
    Abdul S.HΠριν 3 μήνες


  • camille22
    camille22Πριν 3 μήνες

    I respect this. Not so much the seeking of a particular man, but in today’s society where we glorify the cardi bs’ and “ratchet” behavior it’s quite nauseating in America.

  • Giedre
    GiedreΠριν 3 μήνες

    I do feel like a have to be perfect.. I think it hides deep distrust of my own opinion.

  • Isa Lima
    Isa LimaΠριν 3 μήνες


  • 23 Bandana
    23 BandanaΠριν 3 μήνες

    After hearing this I consider myself an elegant extremist. And my reason is for safety. You were spot on. ...unfortunately I am an accidental offense everywhere I go. And it is very relieving to have found a way of life that lets me know exactly when I have done something that is worthy of offense or if others simply have their personal preferences and maybe are easily offended or looking for a way to make someone feel badly

  • Anna Toth
    Anna TothΠριν 3 μήνες

    Hi Anna, my name is Anna too. I came across your channel out of curiosity and then got hooked. I think a lot of ladies who like your page already have the elegance within, that is why we attracted to your channel. I am so tired of women bashing women, calling each other bitches, it's really time to infuse society with some more class and elegance.

  • Glaucia Mesquita
    Glaucia MesquitaΠριν 3 μήνες

    I used to have certain prejudices regarding your channel (and the elegance and etiquette community as a whole). As a feminist, I thought not-so-kind things about elegance and femininity in "traditional" ways. However, the more I went on with certain things, men (and actually people in general) started treating me like a funny-convenient-plaything. Your video about boundaries quite literally changed my life. And these boundaries don't make me less of a feminist, actually I would argue that boundaries and reclaiming my femininity and power as a woman is the most feminist course of action I can take, and it's all thanks to wonderful ladies like yourself. I cannot thank you enough. Best regards, and I will enroll in your courses as soon as I'm able!

  • Yara
    YaraΠριν 3 μήνες

    Am I the only one who noticed the engagement ring!!? 💍

  • Summer Jarvis
    Summer JarvisΠριν 3 μήνες

    In my experience, elegance to the extreme comes across as narcissism. Perfectionism easies anxiety giving us a sense of control in this unpredictable world.

  • Stephanie Reilly
    Stephanie ReillyΠριν 3 μήνες

    Anna, I’m sooooooo glad I watched this. You’re not this stuck-up shallow person these extremists are. You can also change the legacy to where it’s not just about fashions, it’s also who you are. You can look like $1M but if you’re shallow as hell nobody will like you.

  • Nadia KASSOURI
    Nadia KASSOURIΠριν 3 μήνες

    You are so wise and smart for a young lady my dear Anna ❤️ What do you think about the elegance comming from the soul? Combine elegance and altruism??? Cheers, from France 🇫🇷

  • Andie Fisher
    Andie FisherΠριν 3 μήνες

    Brene Brown has talked about the whole concept of perfectionism and how we think being perfect will protect us from judgement and give us "permission" to judge other people. I found the way she talked about this to be so helpful! Ultimately, perfection doesn't exist, and we should just not judge, because it doesn't make us feel better, and we never really know what's going on in other people's hearts and minds.

  • Dilan Bek
    Dilan BekΠριν 3 μήνες

    I love this woman

  • Drew Oratory
    Drew OratoryΠριν 3 μήνες

    I love this top on you! You look beautiful

  • alwaysyouramanda
    alwaysyouramandaΠριν 3 μήνες

    -or! Elegant Minimalism

  • alwaysyouramanda
    alwaysyouramandaΠριν 3 μήνες

    Minimalism seems to be trending. I think you could pull off videos on “minimalist elegance!” 😁😍💕

  • Lucky Doji
    Lucky DojiΠριν 3 μήνες

    You are so bright, I love it

  • Martin McDevitt
    Martin McDevittΠριν 3 μήνες

    Thank you. You are so inspiring and informative. You are so right. The look is great. Eva Gabor as Lisa Douglas in "Green Acres" is truly an elegant lady

  • Cute Puppy
    Cute PuppyΠριν 3 μήνες

    I don’t still don’t really get the concept of “perfect” elegance, coz there is no such thing as perfect. Those ppl who see themselves as perfect beings are most likely delusional/narcissistic.

    CAMILA KΠριν 4 μήνες

    good video!

  • Andrea Sartori
    Andrea SartoriΠριν 4 μήνες

    Any sort of extremism is in itself, not elegant

  • Glo Up
    Glo UpΠριν 4 μήνες

    That’s why my Channel is glowing up in all facets you cannot starve the person and have the nice things...self development trumps it all

  • Ida Malcom
    Ida MalcomΠριν 4 μήνες

    I love your english, so clear, so understandable for foreigners too.

  • Alex H.
    Alex H.Πριν 4 μήνες

    Anna, u’re not only beautiful and elegant, but also intelligent

  • mary Ntigizu
    mary NtigizuΠριν 4 μήνες

    You look good Anne💋

  • MsActor2009 Bevenhouser 3rd
    MsActor2009 Bevenhouser 3rdΠριν 4 μήνες

    Ana, I really enjoy the earrings your wearing. Could you kindly share where I could buy them?

  • Beecauve
    BeecauveΠριν 4 μήνες

    I would like to know how you reconcile this stance against your need and our need (Im guilty, too!) to invest in medspa anti-aging and surgical maintenance. If this only applies to an etiquette faux pas now and then and not also applying to appearance, fashion, or brand choice, I think that would be a paradox worth thinking more about.

  • Master Reflections
    Master ReflectionsΠριν 4 μήνες

    You are so right. I like you because you don’t come off as judgmental. You are helpful, supportive & positive. Others can truly learn from you.

  • faerievomit
    faerievomitΠριν 4 μήνες

    nordic wisdom ♡

  • Khahliso Santho
    Khahliso SanthoΠριν 4 μήνες

    May God bless You Anna Bey keep teaching. Jesus Christ loves you.

  • B. H. R.
    B. H. R.Πριν 4 μήνες

    I grew up listening my abusive father saying: "You are never going to achieve anything in life!" Recently, my husband became CEO, I called my father and said: "Dad, do you remember when you used to tell me I would never achieve anything in life?" "You were right, I achieved nothing, but I married someone who DID IT!"

  • nycsp
    nycspΠριν 4 μήνες

    To Anna with love 😗😘😘😘😘😘🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • 2829hrcnc
    2829hrcncΠριν 4 μήνες

    Anna, you have a wonderful view on life.

  • strange stranger
    strange strangerΠριν 4 μήνες

    I feel like I'm commoner who just turned into a noble lady for some reasons and she is my mentor, trying to teach me how to be lady

  • chhavee Sharma
    chhavee SharmaΠριν 4 μήνες

    Please please make a video on how to look classy in jeans !!!

  • November Alpha Mike
    November Alpha MikeΠριν 4 μήνες

    Not related to the video, but is there a proper direction to wear/loop a belt for women? Also, any chance of doing a video on clothing care tips, washing, dry cleaning, folding, stowing away, not mixing fabrics in the wash, turning them inside out, hanging/folding the clothes fastened or not fastened, restoring pilling clothes, fabric softeners versus non gabric softeners, any recommended detergents, etc. TY!

  • Jananana Hhhh
    Jananana HhhhΠριν 4 μήνες

    You’re changing lives, I’m starting to change slightly and I’ve seen who’ve attended you’re course and I can see the amazing impact you’ve put on them ❤️❤️❤️

  • C x
    C xΠριν 4 μήνες

    Hi Anna I hope you are well, I’m hoping that you see this comment or that some of my fellow elegant ladies can help me out here. Does any one have any tips on how to look elegant at the gym , or any ideas of what’s appropriate to wear at the gym. I know it sounds ridiculous but I’m being genuine here, I don’t want to look elegant all of the other times but look messy at the gym. Many thanks my loves ❤️

  • IsabellA sumaq warmi
    IsabellA sumaq warmiΠριν 4 μήνες

    Interesting 🧐🙋🏽‍♀️

  • Vivienne Louise
    Vivienne LouiseΠριν 4 μήνες

    Can't wait for your next video!

  • Sadia K
    Sadia KΠριν 4 μήνες

    On your way to a million subs!!!

  • Tamkeen Saleem
    Tamkeen SaleemΠριν 4 μήνες

    Can you please make a video about networking with the affluent people when you’re not one yourself?? Much love ❤️

  • Mimi
    MimiΠριν 4 μήνες

    What do you think about going on vacation with your man and he wants you to pay for your trip .so that its 50/50?? Is that what we call etiquette?

  • Minerva Meri
    Minerva MeriΠριν 4 μήνες

    Uppkomlig! Konstlad! Du blir inte lady genom att upprepa ordet!

  • Yasha Srivastava
    Yasha SrivastavaΠριν 4 μήνες

    I m from india,i fully agree with Anna on this topic of elegance,i too really believe in that we should be in limit n have right posture with good manners n etiquetts.i do not run after perfection as noone can not be perfect all the time but yes i do believe in excellence.we have to be as we are in real n transmit postive Aura to feel inside same as out.

  • Jayati Vats
    Jayati VatsΠριν 4 μήνες

    U look so gorgeous dear🦋

  • Lee McGuire
    Lee McGuireΠριν 4 μήνες

    So so true. I thank you 💞 for sharing. There is an insidious side to elegance. The hidden insecurities. Yes. Talk about it. Freedom lies beneath.

  • Cariciavdw
    CariciavdwΠριν 4 μήνες

    Love you Mindset videos thank you for this on?

  • Anna Frances
    Anna FrancesΠριν 4 μήνες

    Hi Anna, I tried to join your facebook group but unfortunately it appears I was declined. Is there something specific we need to do to be able to join? My facebook is incredibly private with no photos, could that be the cause? I'd love to be able to join the community you've created. Much love xo

  • Terry
    TerryΠριν 4 μήνες

    Ana, can you please do another video about finding the right colors for your skin type. Since you had your training where you spend a week learning about colors, it would be helpful to learn more from you about colors. Thanks

  • TQ Riri
    TQ RiriΠριν 4 μήνες

    Basically, A Kind fun elegant friendly person Like me😂

  • Merry 88
    Merry 88Πριν 4 μήνες

    Hı dear Anna,please tell us about how an elegant lady have to behavıour,about the worlds that are sıgn of an elegant lady and also about etteıqute of sitting,drınkıng...

  • Angel Cheedynma
    Angel CheedynmaΠριν 4 μήνες

    “If you scratch elegance, what you’ll find is personal development.”

  • VickiP Kendricks
    VickiP KendricksΠριν 4 μήνες

    I miss you Anna! Where are you?

  • V I C K Y
    V I C K YΠριν 4 μήνες

    I think this Is one of the best videos I've seen in your chanel.

  • Padmé Amidala
    Padmé AmidalaΠριν 4 μήνες

    Video Idea! You should react to Padmé Amídala’s outfits, and tell us what we should and should not wear

  • Alaa Al-Subaie
    Alaa Al-SubaieΠριν 4 μήνες

    I really needed this. Thank you, for posting this video. For two days I have been experiencing a little of anxiety because of tragic incident happened in my country. At the same time I watched a feminine channel and it's comment was full of low key toxic side of feminity. They were doing a breakdown video and I'm not going into details about the video content. But the women from that specific country were complementing themselves (as if they are the only beautiful and desirable women in the world) but at the same time they humiliate women from a another region (my region). They brag about this behavior and don't see it toxic. These men leave their women for them and they love pampering him. When I tried to fix the misunderstanding about us and the labelling was stereotyped and they shouldn't believe it. I asked them politely to stop spreading those slanders. I got some dislike. Do you consider this behavior toxic? And how would handle it if you were in my place?

  • Melissa Seitz
    Melissa SeitzΠριν 4 μήνες

    @schoolofaffluence Hi! Love your videos! I also wanted to let you know of a high fashion couture line that I am the CEO of called B. Lafont Couture. We use state of the art technology that scans your whole body to get your perfect measurements. We then actually make a manikin with your exact measurements so we can get you a dress with the perfect fit whenever needed. I would love to talk to you more about my line if you are interested. Please just get in touch with me. Thank you! Be blessed!


    Dear beautiful Anna, when is your next course ??? can't seem to access anything.

  • Camille Néron
    Camille NéronΠριν 4 μήνες

    Oh what an amazing message ! Thank you for underlining these important aspects ❣

  • Wtf
    WtfΠριν 4 μήνες

    How is it that she sometimes wears earrings but doesn’t seem to have pierced ears in her other videos? Clip ons? Just curious because I can’t figure it out.

  • Hrihne Eva J. Vemai
    Hrihne Eva J. VemaiΠριν 4 μήνες

    Hi please make a video on how to make up like an elegant lady ❤️

  • Margy Rowland
    Margy RowlandΠριν 4 μήνες

    Elegance starts with your virtues, and if you don’t know what I mean you have to educate yourself.

  • The Eastern Raccoon
    The Eastern RaccoonΠριν 4 μήνες

    Anna : « imagine a world where everybody look the same » .That place already exists and it’s called Instagram.

  • Kat Gehrig
    Kat GehrigΠριν 4 μήνες

    I started my journey into elegance when I felt the most insecure about myself. Anna brings up this very important thesis - ultimately, the journey to elegance is also about self development. Once I started raising my self esteem, the urge to please people and be likeable gradually disappeared. I don’t do everything by the books, and there are definitely many women out there who are much more elegant than me, but as I started using elegance as a tool of self expression, my confidence got higher and I’m (still in a process of) developing my own unique style.

  • Jeanne Martin
    Jeanne MartinΠριν 4 μήνες


  • WaxestLowa732 R
    WaxestLowa732 RΠριν 4 μήνες

    thank you we are not bots!

  • Goodwill Bunny
    Goodwill BunnyΠριν 4 μήνες

    You are a national treasure and I look forward to your videos...Grandma Bunny in Phoenix.

  • queeno hearts
    queeno heartsΠριν 4 μήνες

    🥰🥰🥰🥰 I like it I love your channel coz I can def take inspiration when I wanna portray my classy side when o need to wit touch of nasty

  • Mup
    MupΠριν 4 μήνες

    As absurd as it sounds, I think one of the things that would benefit people greatly is getting off the internet and their phones.

  • Tanya Math
    Tanya MathΠριν 4 μήνες

    I dont want be elegant

  • Диана Айтжанова
    Диана АйтжановаΠριν 4 μήνες

    Adore YOU♥️

  • Nausheen Ali
    Nausheen AliΠριν 4 μήνες

    Hi Anna! When can we sign up for your next course?

  • Радунхакеду а фамилии нету
    Радунхакеду а фамилии нетуΠριν 4 μήνες

    We Miss you wehere are you♥️

  • Claudia Vanessa
    Claudia VanessaΠριν 4 μήνες

    I always enjoy your videos!