i got that number 4 and 5 question from my former classmate...just recently I told her she was rude She replied number 7 (topic) She doesn't deserve my time so I didn't respond to her anymore.

Would love to hear your ideas on how to respond to these questions when asked these questions. My initial reaction is to be rude, but that's not very elegant. :)

Many people feel no shame while asking such questions. İ absolutely can not understand such a behaviour

I’d like to add personal medical questions or questions regarding deceased family members

The first faux pas I remember making was when I was about seven years old. I don’t know why I asked my grandmother’s friend how old she was, but in the kindest way possible she told me that one ought never to ask a grown lady her age (and that children were the exception in being asked). I took that to heart and I was mindful about not asking the age question from that day to this. She and I were alone for my piano lesson, or my grandmother would have been there and quickly agreed with her friend.

This is the best of your videos, so straight forward and true

I'll tell you one I hate. Married women making single women feel like they are interested in their spouse.

I will add "how much is your rent for this place?" or "how much did that car cost you?" they're too forward and inquisitive for me.. like people ask them to size you up. If you're interested do market research on your own. Not cool!

I very stupidly asked one very very pregnant looking acquaintance what’s her due date and my other friends quickly diverted topic. I knew I did big mistake and asked in private later on what’s the matter and my friend explained the other young lady is on dialysis and waiting for a kidney donor. Learnt my lesson. We all are still good friends and lady is doing fine now And all this was 10 years before. Never ask if someone is pregnant. Never. Ever.

I joined AND quit a WhatsApp group yesterday where these women in that group claimed to watch you, but asked all these questions you just mentioned. I realized how hard it must be to work with classless pickmeshas! Incredible! 😁

This is so right. A lot of people asked anything they had in their mind, without considering what people might think for a long day, and they blamed them because they are weak and sensitive. I remember can't sleep because someone said i ate too much... I'm not even that fat..

I used to ask people how old they were when their life stories didn’t match how young they looked. I wasn’t careful with this because in my mind I was complimenting them on looking so young. Now that I am in that position (looking a lot younger than I am) I find it very irritating because as popular as it is to look younger these days, I would prefer to look my age.

My cousin had miscarage and she gain weight on her belly people asking her are you pregnant? Was so ectremely painful for her she just didnt wanted to go out again

Why oh why do these sound like Church people questions?😇😈

It’s actually funny in the cultural difference between the western world and my Korean roots because in Korea, they ask about age all the time because they need to know if someone is older or younger to see if they need to use honorifics and formal speech or not. And Korean people also always point out if you gained or lost weight ALL THE TIME.

People are brash and rude. One of THE rudest things anyone has ever asked me Is how my ex husband is doing . What?? None of your business!

Ha, I have heard the pregnancy question hundreds of times - when I refused drink ha!

I get asked the “is your hair real?” And “is that your natural hair color?” A LOT. It makes me uncomfortable every time, I sometimes lie and say yes it’s my natural color just to see people’s reaction and I get a lots of “really?” to top it off. I notice that specially women get a sense of relief to know that ones hair has in some way been altered rather than been like that naturally. It’s kinda of an evil question in a sense

Even better: when asking are you pregnant? To a woman that just lost her child so recently that her body hasn’t gone back to “normal” 🙃

I also have my OWN ELEGANT WAY of answering those kind of questions - "WHY DO YOU WANNA KNOW? " LOL! Actually, almost all of those who knew me know that my usual answer is "my signature answer"l After all, I do not owe anybody any explanations.

People often ask me, “are those your real eye colour ?”🤪

When I watch your video, I always feel like my inner self speaking up

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A few times i was asked by “who is the surgeon who did your nose? It looks so good”. I am like.. seriously? When i was a kid my tiny nose wasn’t “in trend” and cause i had chubby cheeks i was called piggy 🐷. 30 years later my nose shape is super popular, cheeks gone with puberty however I don’t feel comfortable talking about it as it brings me unpleasant memories from the past. Some people don’t understand why i reply - it’s not polite to ask smth like this, cause they think they actually complimented you 😐

I get asked how old are you , i just say old enough

4 and 5 question are definitly the worst!

What career have you finished? That's number 1 for sure hahahahah

at my mum's friends reunion, one of them told another -"ohh you're so thin !!" -I have cancer, she said . Terrible silence haha guess it was a terrible moment for everyone, I'm laughing bc than woman is ok now. ❤️

The 8th question is just trashy and RUDE!

Yesssss Anna people are so nosey

Nice video

Ohhh okay 👋

Thank you so much! Many times I thought I am weird for thinking those questions were rude. People got so offended once I did not respond the way they wanted me to. It is simply none of their business and I never understood why I had to explain in front of a big group „ why I eat all that?!“. I just don‘t understand why it has to be even explained to some, that these kind of questions are super intrusive.

Thanks for posting this! Can you please tell us how do deal with these ill-mannered idiots.

Or they say "healthy" rather than fat. Not cute. Another is " Is that real?! " regarding jewelry. How tacky can you possibly be?! That's a decent response. Like who does that?! And there's nothing worse than knockoffs. Don't do it to yourself.

then how to know the person more?

Can anyone list some conversation starter topics that are respectful and appropriate when first meeting someone?

So accurate 💯🌠🌠 Acknowledging that ELEGANCE is all about RESPECTING OTHER PEOPLE AND NOT HURTING THEIR FEELINGS is just so true 💕💕💕

I don't ask those question. 1: because it's rude. 2: because I don't care 🤣 but I really don't care when people ask me in a non rude way and in private. The problem is when they ask out loud or in front of everyone 🙄

The age question is cultural. In South Korea people have to know the age of people so they know how to address the person. I think is a beautiful way of interacting with others since you behave more respectfully towards older people. Unfortunately most people feel ashamed of their age in most of other countries :(

Thanks Anna . You pointed a very good subject. I never allowed myself to ask these questions from no one but unfortunately people always ask me and it really hurts me .Special why are you single? Don’t wanna have a child ?

I don't really like the question, "Have you LOST weight?" much better. To me it indicates that they noticed my weight before. Just don't comment on a woman's body in general.

Very true

Omg 😱 how many people are rude around me

All these questions are just plain rude if you don't know that person and often don't interest me anyways.But the ones on the age,religion,studies and political stance of a potential mate. With the way I love food I might be an emotional eater,regardless I've been *bombarded* with "Are you going to eat all that?"😩

I so agree with you! Some people just don’t have any common etiquettes

If you are interested in a career that someone has, as in you would like to replicate it, what is a polite way to discuss the financial pros and cons with that person?

I’m a 18 year old German girl and my parents told my just last year about how much they earn. Sure, I could always guess that we are kind of middle class, but I never knew their exact salary. My sister (16 years old) won’t know that for a looong time though, she’s very chatty about everything. So no, in Germany you don’t talk about your salary. Also, even though I don’t agree with every one of your videos, I am 100% with you in this one. 👏🏼 Those. 👏🏼 Are. 👏🏼 Basic. 👏🏼 Manners. 👏🏼

Once I was asked of I have gained weight and it was with the purpose to hurt me

I do not ask anyone about their age, but people do ask me. I never know how to not aswer and be elegant, not rude. Help me how to run with heels hahahaha

I had a friend who was pregnant and the baby died while in the womb. She and her spouse decided not to have a D&C for medical reasons and allow her body to just reabsorb the fetus. So she LOOKED pregnant, but wasn't going to give birth. It was an unusual situation, but definitely awkward if she was asked that question. Anna is SO RIGHT on that question. MYOB!

So, what do you ask???

Another question I don't like people asking me is where I am from. I find that to be invasive if a common ground has not been established.

Anna, I absolutely love how the tone of lipstick you are wearing today looks on you. It is stunning!!!

Have you lost weight? Is rude too yno

How do you respond to the question: why are you single?

I get asked the "why are you single?* Question all the time by my family it's so rude. I can not control the fact that I haven't found anyone who peaks my interest and frankly it's a little hurtful when they ask. I also hate it when men try to get someone (mostly women) to talk about politics. It almost feels like they want to test your intelligence and prove that they are superior. My political opinions are for me to know and for you to never find out.

In school? What do you want to study in college In college? What or where do you want to work New job? Why single Got a bf? Do we hear wedding bells Married ? When are you planning kids Kid 1 ? When are you planning a sibling Kid 2 ? Oh you need to reduce your tummy and you’ve become dark ( cuz of hormones) This has been my life honestly ... I could scream sometimes. They’re well meaning apparently. Nothing that intrusive is meant well. It’s supposed to make the receiving person uncomfortable.

Come to my office you will see indian and Pakistani men asking your age , commenting on weight gain etc as if it’s thier right🙄

I really laughed in "how much does it cost ?" I just respond. ."　Oh its not for sale ."😄😄😄 and the person asked go speechless.

Hahahahah politics, a old friends father asked me about my political view. He's are quite the opposite of mine and was silenced after my answer. He was so disappointed hahaha.

When somebody ask me "why are you single?" I would definitely reply with "why are you in a relationship?" HAHAHAHAHA

I hate the why are you single nonsense! Ugh!!!

i had co-worker he asked me im single ? and i said YES im single ,and he is like why your single ?, iwas like iwant make my dream came true first , and he told me are you lesbain .... THAT WAS SOOOO RUDE .

As I a Chinese, I would say all these questions are very rude, but it sucks is every Chinese New Year, I ended up dealing these questions at least once a year. And it sucks even more the people who are asking these question could be relatives someone you must respect. Sometimes, I wish I don't have these people around me.

Ana, you are so beautiful 🌹I like you, and your videos! Congratulations from Bulgaria😊

In my country people ask these questions like it means nothing ang it destroys someone's day. They are rude people without knowing it, and sometimes they do it to embarrass someone. Subtle public shaming is horror!

It all comes down to boundaries and respect. Don't ask things that are, quite frankly, none of your business. Treat people with respect and it will come back to you.

Dear Elegant Anna, I loved this video about what one should never ask. I would love it if you would kindly post a video on how one should answer inappropriate questions such as these?

It's only exclusively close friends I have ever asked the pregnant question and it has never been awkward they answer me straight up without issues. It also depends on the relationship though

I think sexuality and sexual life are also topics that are very rude to ask.

when a man asks my age, I ask: "what's your net worth?"

Very good video. Glad someone made this video. Sharing.

When I wasn't pregnant, I was always being asked if I was. Its so RUDE. Now I'm actually pregnant. No one asks.

How am I supposed to date multiple men at the same time when i cant even find one to date😩😂 But in all honesty that is actually an unacceptable thing to do where im from

1 - How old are you? 2- Have u Gained weight? 3- Are u pregnant ? 4- Why are you still single? 5- When are you getting married? 6- Politics? 7- How much did that cost? 8- Are those real? 9- Are u going to eat all? 10- where did u study? 11- Dou you believe in God?

But what are the best questions to ask for a conversation on a party or gathering?

I dont even know why most women are affected by their age

"Are you still a virgin?" "Did you already have sex with your bf?" DAMN! I feel so embarassed by this questions of my colleagues. They have no shame at all. I never answered them, I just shut up because I'm not comfortable talking about those stuff with other people. Are they crazy!!?

I've become comfortable with knowing that just because someone asks you a question.... Doesn't mean you have to give them an answer😘

I've been asked by complete strangers if I've had a nose job (no) and if my hair is natural? Amazing how insensitive and invasive people can be and how entitled they feel to know personal private information. 😶

"if u still haven't followed me on instagram, i believe now is the time"

I never asked these questions to anyone except one POLITICS. I think its the subject to discuss and I am desperately debate lover of politics. But from i will try not to do so. And I also didn't mind if anyone ask me these types of ques it's just there way to start a conversation

My friends and I have been asked very uncomfortable questions like “have you ever been raped/molested as a child”

I love to speak with my friends about politics

Personally, I’m sincerely very interested if the person I like or I’m going to be friends with, has a wish to be a parent to make sure we share the same priorities and values for life. It’s hard for me not to ask. But I never want to make them uncomfortable at any occasion. I’ve met some people who depreciated mothers and motherhood so I try to avoid them at all. I find peace in looking at real and well-known power mothers, both loving and caring and successful in what they are doing for life. So I ask myself - why need validation from others if there is already a source of motivation and inspiration?

Whenever someone asks how much I bought something, I say someone just bought it for me.

I think the age question is fine. We should normalize that question.

I hate 4,5,6 questioning me these..lol..OMG..Mind your own business lol..I got reasons myself "private"

If I'm talking to my ex or friends that I know well I tell them they're fat in a funny manner..is that okay?

I think you look so pretty 😍

It really upsets me when people ask me but don't I believe in God and I'm a satanist as soon as I say no

There is another statement that most of the people use very often "I think/feel you have changed a lot" and I don't get it why do you ask that question; changes inevitable, past events brought change in life, don't ask questions or say statements that would put the person in front of you in a difficult position!!

Whenever people ask me this questions I replied them with "what's you business?"

I had to watch this twice. I'm trying to learn to keep my mouth shut about politics, which bothers me a lot ahhaha but... gotta learn! Thank you big sister, Anna! You're wonderful!

I had one woman very enthusiastically asked me, "How many weeks along are you?" I was like, thanks I know I'm fat XD

"What are you???" When they want to know your ethnicity. I just don't understand.

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i know, horrible.

I hate it when people ask me how I'm so slim... Sensitive subject... People are always asking me when I'm getting married 🙄

Thank you for enlightening me about the pregnancy question. I have asked this question in the past with good intentions and many congratulations, and I have gotten positive responses, however, I always considered pregnancy to be a very joyous affair. I didn’t think about those who may not see pregnancy in such a positive light. I think I’ll save my congratulations for when they bring up the their pregnancy first. Thank you! Great video, as always! 🌟

If someone asks me if I have finished my bac., I immediately answer; of course, I have a recycling bac; I have a little rebel side and I am not very elegant in my answers. Sometimes, I regret my impulsive side, but the answers come automatically. Sometimes I can say; it was a joke.