10 Things Elegant Ladies NEVER Do At A Restaurant

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An Elegant Lady would never be caught doing these things at a restaurant! So, level up your dinning etiquette knowledge by avoiding doing these mistakes!
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  • School Of Affluence
    School Of AffluenceΠριν 2 μήνες

    Thank you for watching, ladies! ❤️ And for more content on elegance watch my video 10 Things Elegant Ladies NEVER Do grglo.info/project/pZfSaqrQpM6Mhmg/b-nteo

  • Sarah


    Πριν 3 ημέρες

    Very helpful video. Question. What do you do if the salad pieces are larger than bite size? I have often gotten salads with large lettuce pieces. It is less elegant to try to shove a giant piece of lettuce in your mouth.

  • H K

    H K

    Πριν 14 ημέρες

    There is this to GRglor “miss Susanne” her name is who’s talking badly about Anna. She did her video in german language. I’ve learnt so much from Anna and don’t like the way she speaks about her.

  • Ramona Cooper

    Ramona Cooper

    Πριν 2 μήνες

    Thank you as well! 🙂💞💐💐💐 I couldn't agree more about the sandwich. I have been doing what you just presented, and some people laugh or stare at me. But, I don't care, because I know, elegance is always the best thing a person can poses. Fortunately, I don't drink much wine, just in few occasions, three, four times a year, maybe. I have to admit that I am doing it wrong, have been doing it wrong for years. I keep watching videos, especially yours to catch up on my few mistakes.

  • Ezra aloyevielara

    Ezra aloyevielara

    Πριν 2 μήνες

    Hi Anna do you mind making a video on how an affluent lady hold/carry different types of bags.

  • Gigi


    Πριν 2 μήνες

    Dear Anna, thank you for this lovely video! The sound effects are personally not my favourite but the subtitles are a great idea! Please keep them

  • D Valla
    D VallaΠριν ημέρα

    I was raised with Impecable manners, and it’s true that most people do not follow them. It shocked me the amount of adults that only eat with the fork, in the right hand. The nose one makes me feel like I want to throw up, and people that place their paper napkin inside the plate 😳 There is another one that drives me insane: people that place all their objects on the table once they arrive.

  • Luxmi Frei
    Luxmi FreiΠριν ημέρα

    I saw something recently that was ridiculously amusing in a restaurant. A young lady was having a meal with her boyfriend. Its the way she used her knife and fork. She cut the meat with her right hand, then changed the fork to her right hand to continue eating. In my opinion, and I think in yours too Anna, this is totally taboo. Never seen anything like it before. 😄

  • Merlyn Leichter
    Merlyn LeichterΠριν 3 ημέρες

    😱😅 so right

  • Cell Your Soul art
    Cell Your Soul artΠριν 3 ημέρες

    What if the salad 🥗 leaves are huge ???? Is there a way to handle this ? (♡ your videos)

  • Zara Amor
    Zara AmorΠριν 5 ημέρες

    Ah! Break the bread first. Makes sense. I dont want to tell you what I was doing. 😕

  • Olivia Nowakowski
    Olivia NowakowskiΠριν 6 ημέρες

    Thank you! Have a wonderful day!

  • Pamela RS
    Pamela RSΠριν 6 ημέρες

    This is the kind of content we need

  • Madeleine deleine
    Madeleine deleineΠριν 6 ημέρες

    We learned all these rules regarding "elegant ladies" at finishing school, all these rules are also passed on from mother to daughters is part of one's background even for boys.

  • Alfredo Lucano
    Alfredo LucanoΠριν 6 ημέρες

    Hahaha i need to born again lol

  • beauty by hanin
    beauty by haninΠριν 8 ημέρες

    Thid was so funny lmaoo the way you express everything and the background sound effects HAHA

  • Olivia Smith
    Olivia SmithΠριν 11 ημέρες

    My mom is truly an elegant woman, she taught me all these things.

  • les chef
    les chefΠριν 12 ημέρες

    I like eating my chicken with my hands 🤣

  • Kateryna B
    Kateryna BΠριν 14 ημέρες

    Your hair looks so great!!!!

  • Streetstylis
    StreetstylisΠριν 17 ημέρες

    Who else loves the introduction: “my dear elegant ladies”? 🤩

  • Nazanin Abdul
    Nazanin AbdulΠριν 22 ημέρες

    Can you make a video about your nails?

  • pennypay1
    pennypay1Πριν 23 ημέρες

    I've seen these 'don'ts' addressed in modern articles and videos as well as in one of my favorite social guidance films: 1945's 'The Dinner Party'. That film cites some of these errors, such as not spreading your dinner bread or roll all at once, but the film also says that larger salad greens and bigger pieces of tomato may be cut for less awkward eating. (I personally never cut my lettuce because I never saw family members do it.) But they're all great timeless tips that are there for reasons of orderly/efficient serving, elegance, and courtesy for fellow diners.

  • Caresse Hanley
    Caresse HanleyΠριν 25 ημέρες

    🤣🤣 The shade... but good information.

  • azulceleste666
    azulceleste666Πριν 27 ημέρες

    What do you do when the salad leaves are so large that to eat them whole without cutting, you would have to open your mouth very wide and risk having the food smear around your mouth? wouldn't cutting the salad into smaller bits so you can take more elegant bites be preferable?

  • Bilkisu dan-mutum
    Bilkisu dan-mutumΠριν 27 ημέρες

    My nose always runs when am eating means I'll spend the whole meal time in the bathroom 😂😫😂

  • Ttnguyen14
    Ttnguyen14Πριν 27 ημέρες

    I love your blouse. Can you tell me where you got it? Thank you

  • aaron26c
    aaron26cΠριν 27 ημέρες

    From a man's perspective: Honestly, men don't care about any of this stuff, but #4 is respectful of all humans. Only women who are judging other women care about this so they can seem superior compared to the woman they are criticizing. And if you are a woman who spends her time at a gathering judging other women and their etiquette, that means you are not authentically being present and attentive to the people or person who you did come with.

  • Isabel de Moraes
    Isabel de MoraesΠριν μήνα

    Thank you soooo much 🤗☺️

  • Luna Rose
    Luna RoseΠριν μήνα

    Thank you for the video and my only question do we have to ask our partner for more water it just do it?

  • Hello Mimi
    Hello MimiΠριν μήνα

    The tittle should be: The BIG no no on Table Etiquette for Elegant Ladies. But it's a fun video💙💜

  • fitrialistiqomah
    fitrialistiqomahΠριν μήνα

    I really like this video. I really want to improve myself to behave better, so thank you for making this video.

  • Kristina Paxton
    Kristina PaxtonΠριν μήνα

    Trouble is...sometimes they don't bother to cut the salad before I get it. I have on occasion got the whole iceburg leaf!

  • Angela Watson
    Angela WatsonΠριν μήνα

    Lettuce ... What if it is too big to eat in a normal bite? Just leave it, I'm guessing?

  • ms. marion
    ms. marionΠριν μήνα

    sometimes the salad leaves are too big too eat...

  • Maria Golinsky
    Maria GolinskyΠριν μήνα

    Thank you for including the wine holding. I always cringe when I see this in American movies. The wine will warm up faster that's not what we intend to do. I would love you going into depth and explain why we should not do certain things... Well of course some are self explenetory like the nose thing. Thank you for educating us!

  • Natalia Litvinova
    Natalia LitvinovaΠριν μήνα

    Hallo! Anybody knows where to place a bag when in a restaurant? It was only twice when there was a special bench for it, many thanks!

  • Ann Fairfax
    Ann FairfaxΠριν μήνα

    My mother sent me to a school of elegance that taught me so many things about good manners, good posture and "refinement". These schools/training courses don't seem to exist anymore. Congratulations to Anna for resurrecting this and providing relevant worthwhile information. Thank you.

  • caseyjames
    caseyjamesΠριν μήνα

    wait!!!!.. we can't cut salad... but it's okay break table bread into small bite size piece? whyyy..

  • Joy Hoss
    Joy HossΠριν μήνα

    Please do more on table etiquette.

  • JonnyWooShow
    JonnyWooShowΠριν μήνα

    'go to the bathroom for anything related to the nose....lol!' erm.....don't forget the £50 note or do elegant ladies use a silver 'snorter' lol joking. like your vids, I'm an inelegant man

  • Kim Kirby
    Kim KirbyΠριν μήνα

    I ALWAYS refer to the bathroom as the lady's room. At work, at home, anywhere. Are we bathing, or are we taking care of discretionary intimacies? Yes this is a pet peeve of mine.

  • Beverley Roberts
    Beverley RobertsΠριν μήνα

    Really good tips Anna, love these types of videos. One question, should the waiter always ask and serve ladies before gentlemen? By using these simple etiquette rules, you behave like a very well brought up lady and this is noticed by the people that you meet.x 😊

  • Laver constantine
    Laver constantineΠριν μήνα

    Hmmm but she didn't teach the whole clock thing with your utensils. I forget what it's called cause I was taught it young by my ancient grandma but how you set your fork and knife by mimicing time on the clock let's the waiter know when your done and etc.

  • Teresa Haven
    Teresa HavenΠριν μήνα

    I have a question about holding the wine glass....I have difficulty with my hands, often needing to use both hands to grip the goblet part of the wine glass, not the stem. Should I just totally avoid wine or could this improper thing be overlooked under the circumstances? I am older, just getting back to dating and before the shutdown I had a couple dates where I made lots of mistakes!!!

  • pam moore
    pam mooreΠριν μήνα

    And if the lettuce pieces are huge....just shove them in your mouth ? Getting dressing on your chin? Pfft

  • Manuela G
    Manuela GΠριν μήνα

    I Like your nose

  • Mary LaFrance
    Mary LaFranceΠριν μήνα

    I knew most but not about the placement of wine glass. Thank you. This is helpful for a formal banquet with people from work. Background looks like you're near the port at Nice. Great place to quarantine :)

  • SusiesCookies
    SusiesCookiesΠριν μήνα

    Hahahahahahaha i hear your voice now that i go out eating 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣" Don't cut the salad!!! Don't cut it ' 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • v h
    v hΠριν μήνα

    The tissue thing kills me, I live in Italy and I see people pulling their nose everywhere, it's something normally accepted here, I was so shocked at the beginning then I learned it myself too, go back home..., did it in front of my mum instinctly, and here she is.....:))), thank you mom, for that day, I've never repeated it again.

  • biancake
    biancakeΠριν μήνα

    Who in their right minds would reapply lipstick or liptint or whatever in front of a meal while eating with someone (especially in a public place) ? 🤣

  • music ffan 18
    music ffan 18Πριν μήνα

    I was very blessed to have a mother who taught me to have elegant manners. Most ladies do not

  • Darina Kalinova
    Darina KalinovaΠριν μήνα

    OMG, really? Those are things my mum told me when I was just 10 years old. The only problem I have is wine glass as I have very small hands. The rest especially the bread. Make up and way of eating. You are so right. I am going to call mum to say thank you.

  • nicat nicat
    nicat nicatΠριν μήνα

    How eat elegant lady burger or pizza (some foods eating with hands)?

  • paSH
    paSHΠριν μήνα

    I don’t think ANYBODY should put their tissue on their food

  • Marina Loutsenko
    Marina LoutsenkoΠριν μήνα

    In fact, generally it’s allowed to the married women to put their elbows on the table while having a conversation (and holding a glass). And initially this posture allowed a woman being able to demonstrate the wealth of her husband on her hands 😉...), but nowadays this rule is rather being neglected. I suppose it’s a good idea to explain why the exact rule is applied - it’s easy to remember based on arguments. Thank you for you very much for your work, Ana🤗! PS most of the etiquette rules are made to make our life easier and more comfortable, not being confused with other people and exactly to avoid the unpleasant and awkward situations, and for sure not to make our life and socializing harder

  • na mani
    na maniΠριν μήνα

    Love your videos ,from Algeria

  • Nicholas Mestoik
    Nicholas MestoikΠριν μήνα

    I feel like the majority of these don’t necessarily just apply to ladies or the affluent. Proper dining and table etiquette are never out of fashion and I think are often overlooked in the times we live in. Being able to present and carry yourself appropriately in any social setting or circle, despite your background will take you far.

  • Oana Mesesan
    Oana MesesanΠριν μήνα

    I have learned so much in such a short time!

  • Enchanting Life Etin'e
    Enchanting Life Etin'eΠριν μήνα

    Anna are you still hiring for your blog?

  • Grace Oungh
    Grace OunghΠριν 2 μήνες

    Please tell how to eat burger by elegant lady special in date with some.

  • ari jean
    ari jeanΠριν 2 μήνες

    Also don’t take your napkin off your lap until you are leaving the table for good, not directly after finishing a meal. And if you are leaving the table but going to return leave it on your chair seat.

  • Susan Tropeano
    Susan TropeanoΠριν 2 μήνες

    It is actually perfectly appropriate to apply lipstick only at the table as long as it is done discreetly.

  • K
    KΠριν 2 μήνες

    I go between "that's common sense duh" to "ooooh ok ✍🏾"

  • Candy DeVille
    Candy DeVilleΠριν 2 μήνες

    My mother in law is so particular when it comes to table manners yet she blew her nose at the table. That, to me, is probably the most important rule!

  • M. Roman
    M. RomanΠριν 2 μήνες

    My mom did a good job. All this is normal, everyday table manners to me! But I do see the things you point out, Ana, and they...gross me out, quite frankly (I am secretly happy I can say this here without sounding too uppity😌).

  • Andie Morgan
    Andie MorganΠριν 2 μήνες

    1:04 That's interesting! As Gloria Starr, the world renowned Etiquette Consultant, states the exact opposite if the leaves are too big to be eaten whole! In her video: 'Dining Etiquette When Having a Salad'. She advises if the salad is too big to eat solely with a fork, it is perfectly acceptable to eat the salad in the Continental/European style. I suppose it all depends how big your mouth is!😄

  • Lynette Chamas
    Lynette ChamasΠριν 2 μήνες

    Rule No 1 that somehow got overlooked: no-one, not ladies, elegant ladies or anyone else, should be staring at their mobile phone or madly texting while at the table with other people. It is absolutely the height of rudeness but so many people do it these days.

  • Rain Reimondo
    Rain ReimondoΠριν 2 μήνες

    Thank you from Algeria we need more videos like this

  • Martha M.
    Martha M.Πριν 2 μήνες

    Great video

  • Joanna Socha
    Joanna SochaΠριν 2 μήνες

    I think the worst is leaving the tissiue on the plate after blowing your nose in it. It's super disgusting and I can't imagine how awful it is to the waitress, who is made to pick the tissue and clean the plate.

  • Tuna Tale
    Tuna TaleΠριν 2 μήνες

    This was really good! I love that you talked about the blowing nose-issue, so many do it and I always found it horrible!

  • Avey
    AveyΠριν 2 μήνες

    Anna! You are so FUNNY! I love your sound effects. Your elegance and humor make you even more beautiful! Thank you for all your energy and love. 💗

  • scillapriscilla
    scillapriscillaΠριν 2 μήνες

    The glass of wine goes to the external side wrt the glass of water

  • Jilicia Roopchand
    Jilicia RoopchandΠριν 2 μήνες

    I love how there were 10 things mentioned in 3 mins! 💕

  • Boyan Petrov
    Boyan PetrovΠριν 2 μήνες

    If for some reason you are reading this, can you please tell me who determines the objective truth behind Affluence, Lady Like or Chivalry? And a follow up question, why are those who determine the rules right ? Is the game made only for the ones who would willingly participate or for all people ?

  • Yammy O
    Yammy OΠριν 2 μήνες

    I love love love your videos. I learn a lot. Before, I just watch. Now, I decided to follow you, that's why I subscribed. I am not rich and of course not a social climber. But I define elegance as very lady-like. I want to look feminine from head to foot and watching your videos is the best way to learn. Thank you and more power to you.

  • pearlsalwaysmatch
    pearlsalwaysmatchΠριν 2 μήνες

    Salad leaves are so large and difficult to eat sometimes, how do you elegantly eat a salad without looking like you're stuffing your face?

  • Maxi D
    Maxi DΠριν 2 μήνες

    Who's been spying on me and seeing me eat spaghetti out of a ziplock for this to be recommended?? 😩

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    Cleopatra TROPHY WIFEΠριν 2 μήνες


  • irina preda
    irina predaΠριν 2 μήνες

    The makeup one is such a pet peeve of mine. Not just at the dining table but also on the plane, when you talk to someone etc.

  • Ibra
    IbraΠριν 2 μήνες

    100 Years from now none of you will matter

  • Katarzyna K
    Katarzyna KΠριν 2 μήνες

    To my belief napkin is normally placed on the left side at the beginning and should be placed on the right side after a meal. Same rule as when the food is served from a left side and taken away from a right side. I liked the video very much. It was perfectly ‘to the point’

  • sana ch
    sana chΠριν 2 μήνες

    Does elegent ladies notice other people that what they r doing or how they are eating.?

  • tropadebeleza
    tropadebelezaΠριν 2 μήνες

    Omg, is this a joke? Who are you to say what people should do?

  • C B
    C BΠριν 2 μήνες

    I don't know when or how I learned these, but evidently I'm elegant when dining and had no clue! Yay!

  • سوسو الجميلة
    سوسو الجميلةΠριν 2 μήνες

    You forgot to add to not use swear words and also the cellphone at the table. I swear I seen this happening many times and it just makes me obnoxious.

  • Signe Preston
    Signe PrestonΠριν 2 μήνες

    Ohhh, this is great!!! I miss to see more elegant ladies in social places!!! So much have changed in last 10 years.... !!!! 😎 🤩 😎 🤩 😎 🤩 😎 🤩 😎 🤩

  • Guga Gaidzak
    Guga GaidzakΠριν 2 μήνες

    Dont even think that you are getting away from these rules just because you're a man. It is universal etiquette, gentlemen!

  • Violet
    VioletΠριν 2 μήνες

    You look beautiful as ever Anna! The palm tree looks like a fascinator, could you do a video on fascinators?

  • Mndzebele Melinda
    Mndzebele MelindaΠριν 2 μήνες

    Being elegant seems hard

  • Kiary Journet
    Kiary JournetΠριν 2 μήνες

    You’re the best, omg. Thanks you so much! ✨💕✨💕✨

  • Denise
    DeniseΠριν 2 μήνες

    I'm feeling lucky right now, I already knew all these dining etiquettes since I was a young girl...I don't get how certain people still don't realize how to behave in determine circumstances 😅

  • Laura Adriano
    Laura AdrianoΠριν 2 μήνες

    Thank you for your truly precious advices 😊 I still have a doubt: can I cut tomatoes in salad?

  • Eva Bessenyei
    Eva BessenyeiΠριν 2 μήνες

    Gotta love how there's a lesson on how to not be your true self every where you look🙈😅 cuz yeah.. Lying to not only your partner on who you truly are but lying to yourself also is now the new craze😛😝😜 shall we be followers? 🤔

  • Diyana Husidic
    Diyana HusidicΠριν 2 μήνες

    Hi Anna! Would you mind sharing the name and brand of the lipstick you applied? I absolutely love the color. Also great video!

  • Astrid María Delgado Arana
    Astrid María Delgado AranaΠριν 2 μήνες

    Thank you for the grant! Education is so needed in so many areas of life.

  • Jennifer Nelson
    Jennifer NelsonΠριν 2 μήνες

    Holding the wine glass by the bowl changes the temperature of the wine. The stem is there for a reason.

  • Sara GB
    Sara GBΠριν 2 μήνες

    you forgot the hair! You NEVER do your hair, or play with your hair when you are at a dinner party or especially in a restaurant! It's very poor taste and disrespectful to the other guests because a hair may fall on their food. You should never be fixing your hairdo or doing a ponytail, etc, etc. on the table always go to the bathroom! small things like tucking your hair behind your ear are fine.

  • Destiny Adivá
    Destiny AdiváΠριν 2 μήνες

    Omg number 9!!!! My pet peave it’s so nasty and inconsiderate

  • Claudia Templaria
    Claudia TemplariaΠριν 2 μήνες

    In aristocratic/noble families there are 2 Things allowed of the ones you show as a no go.

  • Francine L
    Francine LΠριν 2 μήνες

    ''You may look French''? Sorry but French people who drink a lots of wine always hold the glass by the stamp because the heat from your hand could alterate the taste of your wine, that's why the glasses are made that way. So, please!

  • Berat Su Aydın
    Berat Su AydınΠριν 2 μήνες

    Wow so I'm an elegant lady.

  • Friendly Fish India
    Friendly Fish IndiaΠριν 2 μήνες

    It was all good until the last part when the tissue went on the finished plate! I do that x/ no more I guess

  • Serhan Aksak
    Serhan AksakΠριν 2 μήνες

    the background looks magnificent

  • Ana G.
    Ana G.Πριν 2 μήνες

    Never seen any lady hold a wine glass like that. This must be a not so elegant town 😆